The equinox – a time of the year where day and night are of equal length – reminds us to balance the masculine and feminine energies within us, and also in every area of our life; physically, emotionally, energetically and how we treat ourselves generally.

And given that the autumn equinox coincides with the new moon, it offers us a powerful invitation into a new phase of life; one that is free from the dramatic swings of the pendulum. A phase where we make wiser choices that help us remain centred, grounded, nourished and at peace. A peaceful, joyful and drama-free life is built upon finding the harmonious balance between all expressions of the masculine and feminine energies within us.

As we do this, life slowly becomes a more beautiful and nourishing experience. We begin to realise that the subtle balance within us is what aligns us with a higher perceptive reality, bringing us to a greater awareness of the divine realms.

While we are out of balance in any way, whether it is physically, emotionally or spiritually, our body-mind-energy system is fully preoccupied with restoring the equilibrium and most of our energy and attention is consumed by this process.

Just like a pendulum which has swung one way must inevitability swing the opposite way, when we go more into either the masuline or feminine, we must inevitability travel in the opposite direction.

The ideal – which we are all moving towards slowly but surely – is being an embodiment of these two energies fused together. Because in truth, they are not separate. They belong together as one, because they have always been one.

It’s the human mind which has divided them, and persuaded us to desire one more than the other – which of course leads to us desiring its opposite also. This is the endless pendulum swing of human drama and imbalance, and we never feel truly free or at peace while it is swinging.

When the pendulum finally rests in the centre point, there is no longer masuline and feminine – there is union, and something whole and complete is present. You could call it God perhaps, or Divine Love. But even without a name, the reality of completion and oneness is fully felt, and this is what we are all subconsciously searching for. It’s the union between our two polarities. It is coming home to being one with ourselves, and at one with a greater loving spirit. Because all is one, and there is no other.

And so the good news is that it is your choices that determine how much the pendulum swings, and as you become aware of the underlying masculine and feminine energies behind every aspect of your life, you can make wiser choices – ones which restore and maintain a feeling of balance, a feeling of inner completion and wholeness. Energetic equilibrium is the foundation for everything that nourishes our soul in this life.

So observe your choices, and the energy you experience as a consequence of your choices. We all know what will help us enjoy a balanced life: exercise and rest, nourishing and grounding natural foods free of stimulants, plenty of time in nature, caring relationships. But possibly the hardest ares to address is the inner environmet of our own heart.

We all know that we need a heart which is free of the energies of anger and fear. We know that these two forces can have a very destructive effect upon our life. So how do manage them? Simply by bringing balance into the picture. And the only truly balancing energy for fear and anger is love. They simply need to be observed through loving and compassionate eyes.

Imagine a young child who has been traumatised at some point. They may be angry and exhibiting destructive behaviour, or they may be extremely timid and scared, and want to hide from the world. In either case, what they really need is a feeling of safety. A feeling of safety changes everything, and the child relaxes inside. It is a loving environment that creates that sense of safety. Without it, nothing else will work.

A loving environment is all that is needed for healing to occur.

And the same applies to our own heart; a loving environment needs to be created for the fear and anger to dissolve. We will no longer feel we need them, because we have something better.

So the ultimate question is how do we create this environment within our heart?

Firstly we must observe ourselves through compassionate eyes. Our perception of all our failings, weaknesses and charachter defects all comes from having a critical view of ourselves, an analytic view, a judgemental view. But this doesn’t truly help because a loving environment is not being created through that view.

See yourself as a traumatised child, who is insecure and out of balance. It just wants to feel safe. Have compassion for that part within you. Look at yourself with compassionate and forgiving eyes, and reinforce this with how you talk to yourself.

Congratulate yourself when you do something positive or achieve something that was challenging for you, no matter how small. Be patient with yourself when you make mistakes or mess things up, just like you would with a small child. This is the only way your heart can start to feel safe – if it knows it is not going to criticised, accused, judged or condemned.

We are doing this to ourselves all the time, so no wonder we often struggle to have a secure and peaceful heart. No wonder we stay in fear and anger. We are not feeling safe in an environment of self-love, and we must address this ourselves. No-one else can do it for us.

So let this be your ultimate focus: self-love and self-care. And then as you get good at this, you will naturally become a much more loving and caring person towards others.

Love yourself by choosing balance in all areas of your life. Allow yourself to choose what most nourishes you, so that you can nourish others.

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Live in gratitude
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