When we stop trying to be in control – of our own thoughts and emotions, and those of other people also – we experience a tremendous relief. Why?
Because control originates from fear. We fear that if we are not in control, then perhaps bad things will happen – things we do not want to happen. So control is all about fear, which is essentially the cause of all our inner tension & stress.
As we learn to trust, we can let go of needing to control everything, and we instantly relax. These words are almost synonymous: RELAX, LET GO, TRUST. If we wish to experience more peace, we have to trust more, and to trust we must let go and relax our body.
So, essentially, on a very practical level when you observe anxiety, tension and the need to control arising within you, you must first relax your body. This is how you say “I trust” with your entire being. It is not enough just to say it mentally, you have to make the statement with your being, by relaxing.
Then, as you calm down and you feel more at ease and relaxed, you observe that reality has changed. You feel safe; not threatened. You have created this reality with the statement that you have just made about reality with your being. By relaxing, you have affirmed that reality is not threatening. You have affirmed that it is safe to relax, therefore it is true.
And thus we create a reality of peace and safety for ourselves – not by protecting ourselves or contriving circumstances to our liking – but by being the master of reality, approaching it totally free of fear and anxiety. It is your friend, so open up to it, relax with it, share your heart with it and all that it brings to you. This is your purpose.